Tag: the relative dangers of polyamory

littleprincecasey:

my-polylife-ramblings:

nightmarekite:

• Because when someone doesn’t want to date me because I’m poly it’s ‘understandable’ but when I don’t want to date someone because they are monogamous it’s ‘ridiculous.’
• Because all relationship advice tells you that if you have feelings for someone else while you’re in a relationship you’re a bad person.
• Because even feminists try to slut shame me.
• Because when I tell people me and my partner have an open relationship they assume it’s because we’re going through a rough patch.
• Because people equate ‘multiple partners’ with ‘predator’ and think everything I say is an attempt to get in their pants.
• Because I am fed up of love triangles as easy plot devices in my media.
• Because the LGBTQA+ movement are so desperate to show ‘allies’ they are ‘just like everyone else’ that they shit on everyone with a non-monogamous dynamic.
• Because when a monogamous couple have sex with each other every night it’s having an active sex drive. When I have sex with a different partner every night I’m a nymphomaniac.
• Because people think that monogamy = validity, always.
• Because monogamous hetronormativity is so ingrained that I don’t even feel like I can dance with someone without telling them the complete logistics of my love life.
• Because people genuinely believe that raising a child communally is damaging to development.
• Because when I say ‘I could never be monogamous’ I get dirty looks.
• Because too many people have tried to confide in me when they’re cheating because ‘I thought you, of all people, would understand.’
• Because I can’t talk about my relationship troubles with my monogamous friends because ‘I always have something to fall back on.’ As if my relationships are meaningless.

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Because I frequently have people telling me to “save some for the rest of us” when I say someone is attractive.

Because I’m sick of people acting like polyamory and polygamy are the same exact thing. Hint: it’s fucking not.

Because I want to be able to openly talk about my multiple partners without people immediately assuming I’m monogamous and cheating on my partner.

Because I’m fucking sick of people assuming my relationship is falling apart because I have sex with one partner more than another.

Because I can’t fucking stand people thinking I don’t love my partners equally and assuming I have to love one more than the other(s).

Because my single friends complain when I mention I have a crush on someone new.

Because I’m comfortable with talking to all of my partners about each other and don’t feel like I’m cheating, because I’m not.

I’m seriously sick of the stigma behind being poly. There is a difference between cheating and being polyamorous. I talk to my partner(s) before I get involved in any way with another person or other people. If even one of them isn’t comfortable with it I back the fuck up and I let my partners know of the situation and remind them that I love them and care about them and respect their opinions. I don’t feel the need to force all of my partners into a “committed” relationship with me if they aren’t comfortable with it, especially if they don’t like long distance relationships.

Get rid of the negative stigma behind being polyamorous and make it fucking positive.