{"id":38246,"date":"2011-11-01T21:01:49","date_gmt":"2011-11-01T21:01:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2011\/11\/01\/an-open-letter-to-a-mother\/"},"modified":"2011-11-01T21:01:49","modified_gmt":"2011-11-01T21:01:49","slug":"an-open-letter-to-a-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2011\/11\/01\/an-open-letter-to-a-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"An open letter to a mother"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Mom,<\/p>\n<p>Hi. \u00a0I&rsquo;m your child. \u00a0Remember, the one you raised from a very young age? \u00a0I&rsquo;d like to finally introduce myself to you in a way that might make you uncomfortable:<\/p>\n<p>Hi, I&rsquo;m a human being too.<\/p>\n<p>I know that you did your best to raise me the way you thought was <em>good and correct<\/em>, and that now, whenever you look at me and my choices in life, you see a disappointment. \u00a0I wish you wouldn&rsquo;t express that to me. \u00a0I get that I won&rsquo;t understand what it means to watch a child change until I&rsquo;m a parent too, but I very much understand rejection and disappointment. Please don&rsquo;t pile those things on me.<\/p>\n<p>You see, I just want to live my life in the way <em>I<\/em> think is <em>good and correct<\/em>. \u00a0I want to fall in love with someone, and I want it not to matter if their gender is the same as or different than mine. \u00a0I want to try dangerous or unhealthy things sometimes, because I know someday I may have to lock myself tightly into the system, and the system is boring &#8211; so I want to feel alive. \u00a0I want to make money at a job I love, and sometimes that might mean I don&rsquo;t make much money at all. \u00a0I want to leave my mark on the world, but probably not the way you meant to leave a mark on the world when you raised me.<\/p>\n<p>If I&rsquo;m in love, be happy for me. If I&rsquo;m being dangerous or unhealthy, give me your advice, but treat me like an adult. \u00a0If I&rsquo;m struggling with money, be sympathetic (though I&rsquo;m not asking to be a charity). \u00a0If I&rsquo;m leaving my mark on the world, be proud of me.<\/p>\n<p>I know we can never be peers or even friends, really, because you will always be my mother and I will always be your child. \u00a0But the more you respect me, the more I will respect you, and then I&rsquo;ll be proud to point you out and say, &ldquo;Yeah, that&rsquo;s right, she&rsquo;s my mom.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p>I love you very much, and I hope you can see that I mean nothing against you, your parenting, or your love with this letter.<\/p>\n<p>Sincerely,<\/p>\n<p>Your child<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Mom, Hi. \u00a0I&rsquo;m your child. \u00a0Remember, the one you raised from a very young age? \u00a0I&rsquo;d like to finally introduce myself to you in a way that might make you uncomfortable: Hi, I&rsquo;m a human being too. I know that you did your best to raise me the way you thought was good and &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2011\/11\/01\/an-open-letter-to-a-mother\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;An open letter to a mother&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[10489,10486,741,10488,430,10487,10485,10490,6616,10491],"class_list":["post-38246","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-child","tag-letter","tag-mom","tag-moms","tag-mother","tag-mothers","tag-open-letter","tag-parent-child-relationship","tag-parents","tag-plea"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38246","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=38246"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38246\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=38246"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=38246"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=38246"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}