{"id":35063,"date":"2012-01-12T23:34:00","date_gmt":"2012-01-12T23:34:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2012\/01\/12\/inflatedmoose-brittathinksyoureedible\/"},"modified":"2017-07-01T20:52:18","modified_gmt":"2017-07-01T20:52:18","slug":"inflatedmoose-brittathinksyoureedible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2012\/01\/12\/inflatedmoose-brittathinksyoureedible\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-35063 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2012\/01\/12\/inflatedmoose-brittathinksyoureedible\/attachment\/35064\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/tumblr_lvlrvms2gZ1r6gn7bo1_500-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/tumblr_lvlrvms2gZ1r6gn7bo1_500-150x150.jpg 150w, http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/tumblr_lvlrvms2gZ1r6gn7bo1_500-100x100.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"auto, 100vw\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/inflatedmoose.tumblr.com\/post\/15744206839\/brittathinksyoureedible-inflatedmoose\">inflatedmoose<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/brittathinksyoureedible.tumblr.com\/post\/15743588485\/inflatedmoose-rosalarian-ive-been-on-a\">brittathinksyoureedible<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/inflatedmoose.tumblr.com\/post\/15742297467\/rosalarian-ive-been-on-a-quest-to-find-more\">inflatedmoose<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/rosalarian.tumblr.com\/post\/15737168356\/ive-been-on-a-quest-to-find-more-female-stand-up\">rosalarian<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>I\u2019ve been on a quest to find more female stand-up comedians lately. They\u2019re out there, and there\u2019s a lot of funny ones. But there\u2019s this pervasive mindset that in order to be one, you have to put other women down, and stress that you aren\u2019t <em>really<\/em>\u00a0like all those <em>other<\/em>\u00a0girls, you know, the \u201cnormal\u201d girls who are awful.<\/p>\n<p>Like comedy is this private club and the password is \u201cwomen suck\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Thankfully, I\u2019ve found lots and lots of awesome lady comedians who get by without resorting to that, proving that it <em>is<\/em>\u00a0possible so no one has any excuse to keep doing it. And makes me feel better that someday, I can have some decent success at it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Still love this.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>asdfghjkl. I take a little issue with this. I\u2019m all for communicating the fact that social stereotypes are fucked up, and reforming our collective perceptions as much as possible. and no, I don\u2019t think a person should say that all X are Y, unless it\u2019s been absolutely proven. \u00a0however, in my experience (which I admit is not extensive, but I have lived in close, real, gritty quarters with six different women, not including my sister), the ways that the women in my life have been brought up to fight, solve problems, and compromise (or not, which has usually been the case) is <em>nasty<\/em>. it <em>is<\/em>\u00a0catty. maybe that\u2019s society telling girls that\u2019s how you\u2019re \u201csupposed\u201d to fight, but there are certainly a lot of personal, concrete examples for me that this is fairly true of women who have entered my life. of course there are exceptions; one of my best friends is a beautiful, wonderful, flawed young woman I love dearly, who has, over the course of our 20-some year friendship, really become a person I want on my side: she\u2019s honest without being cruel, she\u2019s thoughtful without being flighty, and she\u2019s an excellent compromiser. I don\u2019t assign these traits to her because she \u201cacts like a man.\u201d \u00a0I don\u2019t assign these traits to her for any reason beyond my personal, individual experience with her. the same goes for the <del>women<\/del> girls who have been negative factors in my life: I don\u2019t assign those traits to them because they have vaginas or a high level of estrogen, I assign them because that\u2019s how they act.<\/p>\n<p>then, though, when I encounter others who act in a similar manner as people who have been assholes to me or who carry themselves with the same demeanor &#8211; male <em>or<\/em>\u00a0female &#8211; I then hear those warning bells and become wary that they will consequently behave themselves in the same ways. I\u2019ve been fucked over and stepped on by too many people not to do that. now, back to my issue with the original post: most of my negative experiences have been had with people who identify as female. I\u2019m not here to say \u201cfemales act a certain way, girls are bad, women are catty,\u201d but in my experience, they get that way with <em>me<\/em>. so yeah, I may be more wary of girls and their behavior with me &#8211; but that\u2019s a personal, trained response. I\u2019m open to being friends with identified females, certainly, but the more those same behavioral patterns emerge in an individual, the more gunshy I become, both with them and in the future.<\/p>\n<p>if I\u2019d had a different general experience, I firmly believe that I am a rational enough human being to not buy into the stereotype of cattiness. but the stereotype makes sense to me. so I <em>personally<\/em>\u00a0disagree with the sentiment of this post.<\/p>\n<p>&lt;\/unpopular opinion&gt;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>So are you saying you don\u2019t hate women because they are all caty, but you hate catty women?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Because that seems reasonable.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>thaaat&rsquo;s a pretty good summary, I guess, but my objection to the original post was that it&rsquo;s hard not to put things in categories, and when your personal experiences makes certain categories (read: stereotypes) seem true, it&rsquo;s perhaps not such a crime.<\/p>\n<p>as long as you maintain an open mind about what exactly it is that you&rsquo;re categorizing. for example, I&rsquo;ve often been asked why I don&rsquo;t have very many female friends, and my answer is, &ldquo;because girls are almost always catty with me.&rdquo; \u00a0I <em>do<\/em>\u00a0qualify it with that &ldquo;almost always,&rdquo; but I still have gotten some pretty harsh feedback similar to the above picture. I guess my point is that you only have your experience, and if your experience is that &ldquo;girls are catty <em>to me<\/em>,&rdquo; that&rsquo;s not necessarily buying into gender stereotypes of society, that&rsquo;s just stating a personal fact.<\/p>\n<p>so I suppose the line needs to be drawn between the two things (personal experience vs. universal truth) pretty clearly? idk.<\/p>\n<p>EDIT: added <em>&ldquo;to me&rdquo;<\/em>\u00a0to that sentence. that&rsquo;s more clear.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>inflatedmoose: brittathinksyoureedible: inflatedmoose: rosalarian: I\u2019ve been on a quest to find more female stand-up comedians lately. They\u2019re out there, and there\u2019s a lot of funny ones. But there\u2019s this pervasive mindset that in order to be one, you have to put other women down, and stress that you aren\u2019t really\u00a0like all those other\u00a0girls, you know, &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2012\/01\/12\/inflatedmoose-brittathinksyoureedible\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35063","post","type-post","status-publish","format-gallery","hentry","category-uncategorized","post_format-post-format-gallery"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35063","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35063"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35063\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":35065,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35063\/revisions\/35065"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35063"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35063"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35063"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}