{"id":1844,"date":"2017-03-24T18:05:12","date_gmt":"2017-03-24T18:05:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2017\/03\/24\/partnered-life-am-i-checking-in-with-my\/"},"modified":"2017-03-24T18:05:12","modified_gmt":"2017-03-24T18:05:12","slug":"partnered-life-am-i-checking-in-with-my","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2017\/03\/24\/partnered-life-am-i-checking-in-with-my\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Partnered Life:<br \/>\n* Am I checking in with my partner to see if they had a rough day?<br \/>\n* If so, am I stepping up to make their life easier in other ways (cooking, cleaning, etc.)?<br \/>\n* Am I open and clear about my wants, and not forcing my partner to guess\/drag it out of me?<br \/>\n* Am I contributing constructively to planning of meals, events, trips, etc?<br \/>\n* Am I actively trying to make my presence feel safe for my partner?<br \/>\n* Do I try to do nice things for my partner without being asked (flowers, treats, etc.)?<br \/>\n* Do I take care of my own administrative life (paperwork, bills) without needing to be repeatedly reminded?<br \/>\n* Am I supportive of my partner\u2019s decisions, big and small?<br \/>\n* Am I respectful and validating of my partner\u2019s emotions?<br \/>\n* Am I vocally grateful when my partner goes out of their way to do something nice for me?<br \/>\n* Am I nice to my partner\u2019s family [if that\u2019s a thing they want]?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div class='attribution'><a href=\"http:\/\/the-orbit.net\/brutereason\/2015\/07\/27\/emotional-labor-what-it-is-and-how-to-do-it\/\">Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It<\/a> (via <a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/littletimechange.tumblr.com\/\">littletimechange<\/a>)<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Partnered Life: * Am I checking in with my partner to see if they had a rough day? * If so, am I stepping up to make their life easier in other ways (cooking, cleaning, etc.)? * Am I open and clear about my wants, and not forcing my partner to guess\/drag it out of &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/2017\/03\/24\/partnered-life-am-i-checking-in-with-my\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[1093,1077],"class_list":["post-1844","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-good-reminders","tag-meandyou","post_format-post-format-quote"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1844","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1844"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1844\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1844"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1844"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.augustwritesabook.com\/tumblr-backup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1844"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}